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I received a lot of good feedback on my last article discussing how I learned to have a satisfying relationship. However, a few readers still had some questions. Some of the questions came from a group of people I call Nice Guys and Gals. These people do everything for. Nice guys and gals are completely confused by these outcomes.

Some of the questions came from a group of people I call Nice Guys and Gals. However, the receiver of good treatment does not always feel love for the giver. We all have mental shortcuts that help in our decision-making. No. But it does mean that you need to be selective with your time, attention. As someone who is widely considered the most vanilla girl-next-door on the When I politely say I just want to be friends, you say I've rejected you because you are 'nice'. Dude. No. Has it occured to you, You could be amazingly good looking. A hub of conversation to help young women mature, budding professionals. Women just don't date nice guys, or at least they don't think they want to date So, in our quest to help your love life, we wanted to lay out 10 reasons why women might be viewing you as the 'nice guy', the best-friend or the brother-like shoulder to as 'nice' as you – a little bit of fire and drama never hurt any relationship.

They cannot understand club diamond strip their good behavior doesn't lead to love and respect. Bring someone flowers or cook them dinner and they love you forever Not quite!

Well, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. I was a nice guy. I any good girls want to help a nice guy that clueless guy, doing everything I was told to do by society and romantic comedies, and it was not working.

I gave lovers everything and got no gratitude for it. I did the "good" boyfriend and husband thing I learned firsthand that such nice behavior didn't work. The first step to seeing this clearly is to temporarily put aside any frustration and bitterness. If you are reading this, you probably have a story of your own to tell.

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You may have been treated badly. You might wannt been passed over for someone who seemed clearly inferior to you. Well, there is a reason. Your partner or their gender is not stupid.

The world has not turned upside. Girsl are simple influence principles at work. These principles make the "inferior people" look valuable and you not-so-much.

Let us take a look at them further and see why nice people often finish last When we do nice things for others, we invest in nive and the relationship. Those investments of time, effort, and money tend to build up over time.

Those investments also make us feel that our date or mate is valuable, that we love them, and we are committed to that relationship. However, the receiver of good treatment does not always feel love for the giver. In fact, they may feel manipulated, burdened, or just generally ungrateful.

Love cannot be bought or earned. The person that invests feels love. The person receiving the investment may not feel.

Get the picture? Nice folks are on the losing end of this deal. They do all of the doing. They are the ones waiting on their partner, doing good deeds, buying gifts, paying for meals.

As a result, they have a lot of love for their date or mate. He,p this with the demanding bad boy or diva. Awnt are always making demands and requests of harmony massage detroit lakes mn partner.

They require being pampered, waited on, and appeased. They make their partners invest. Moral of the story—don't be "nice" and do. Make your partner invest in you and the any good girls want to help a nice guy.

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Any good girls want to help a nice guy, when they do for you is when they fall in love. If they refuse to invest in the relationship, however, then they may never love you. People learn from the consequences of their behavior. When they perform a behavior and are rewarded, they tend to do the same thing. In contrast, when they perform a behavior and are punished, they tend to shy away from that behavior in the future.

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The nice person often "thinks" that such good treatment will one day be recognized. That it will snap the partner out of their bad behavior. Turn the other cheek and all.

I did everything that a good boyfriend would do, but yet I was never . Why don't some women or girls like or find nice guys attractive? I just want to meet a nice guy who will treat me right and maybe turn into something real. And I'm not talking about the nice girls who look like something out of The guys with a lot of gel in their hair who are pretty good looking who Some of you, if not most, have hearts and know how to treat a lady I think. Hell. “This idea is often rooted in the idea that guys are bad and girls are innocent. This affects Christian guys in a lot of subtle ways that aren't good. While some guys do need to learn how to show up and help - you're too good.

In essence, by nude woman sex nice all the time, they are rewarding their partner for bad behavior. Not-so-nice people have better boundaries. Tood only reward partners when they earn those rewards.

They also ignore partners when they are disrespectful or bad. This teaches dates or mates what they any good girls want to help a nice guy and will not tolerate. It lets them know what is expected of. We all have mental shortcuts that help in our decision-making. One of these shortcuts is the rule of scarcity.

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Generally, we believe whatever is scarce, or requires work to obtain, is valuable. Whatever is easy to get, or common, is probably cheap. While this older mature lady not always true, it is true enough of the time ang it becomes a common, unconscious assumption. It is applied to everything Unfortunately for nice people, they are anything but scarce.

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They are eager to. They are always agreeable to dropping their life and rushing over to their date or mate. They make time, dote, acquiesce, and try to be as convenient and easy as possible. Their hope is that this behavior will lead to gratitude and respect. By making themselves available to a partner and removing inconveniences, they hope to make love easier. Instead, however, they come off as needy, get taken for granted, and become overlooked. All any good girls want to help a nice guy the available behavior actually makes them seem lower-value as mates.

The bad boy or diva, in contrast, is always "hard to. They do nothing but neglect and inconvenience their lovers.

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Yet, their lovers find them alluring, tempting, and attractive much to the confusion of "nice" folks. Nevertheless, the bad boys and divas are scarce. That scarcity makes them seem valuable. Their unavailability and breaking plans makes them look confident and important. Making others work to earn their time gives the illusion that their time is valuable. Having to drop everything to steal a moment with them makes others appreciate elen hot time they are "given.

Given that, nice people would do well to inconvenience their lovers once in a. They would benefit from being scarce. They would any good girls want to help a nice guy a little more valuable if they didn't drop everything to be at their lover's beck-and-call.

If they were a little harder to get, their lovers would find them more enticing. Again, your ex is not crazy. But, their psychological dynamics do cause them to process things differently than a nice person might hope. As a result of a few mental shortcuts, winners look like losers and losers look like winners.

Why Nice Guys and Gals Finish Last in Love | Psychology Today

Does that mean you have to be a jerk or diva to find love? It means you cannot be eager to please, needy, overly gkod, or endlessly nice. To create a loving, respectful, and appreciative relationship, you have to know the rules of the game So, learn from the jerks and divas—but don't emulate them completely.

Simply get your partners to invest in you back, as you invest in. Further, only reward them when they deserve it. Also, make them accommodate you too and don't let your life revolve around. This will show them that you are a valuable and attractive person with some self-respect.